The future of Nadia and Caspian will be determined by the trial that starts on Wednesday (August 24th). The trial, scheduled for a few days, will be held at The County Council for Child Welfare and Social Affairs (Fylkesnemnda) in Bergen.
On Wednesday of this week (August 17th), Nadia received a verdict from the Barnevernet about the 9 1/2 hour hearing on Monday, August 8th.
The verdict states that she is unstable. She is considered unstable because of reactions she had months ago at the Vilde’s Mother’s Home in Horton. At Vilde, when Nadia found out that another mother was losing her child, Nadia would sometimes cry. This is the reason the verdict gives for Nadia’s instability. The verdict also stated that Nadia is forgetful at times. The same verdict states that Nadia is a good mother when she feels safe.
On Thursday, the day after Nadia received this verdict, she had her scheduled visitation with Caspian. The report of the visitation was very good.
After the visitation, the head of Årstad Barnevernet met with Nadia. She has known Nadia since she was pregnant. She is also the same Barnevernet employee who sent Nadia from the Sudmanske “Home for Mothers” in Bergen to the Vilde “Mother’s Home.” Caspian was over a month old at that time.
The head of the Arstad Barnevernet told Nadia that, “They want me to see him three times a year.” The reasons the Arstad employee gave for Barnevernet’s wishes that Nadia see Caspian three times a year were the same reasons as those given in the report she received on Wednesday.
Nadia had another visitation on Friday and received a very good review for that visitation.
Caspian is being held in a place unknown to his mother. It has been this way since Caspian was taken from Nadia on June 13th, more than two months ago.
Mother and child now wait for the important decision that will be made this week. The decision will determine the future of this family.
First, Nadia would like to thank everyone who has prayed for her, thought of her, and supported her during this very difficult time in her life.
Second, Nadia thinks that the “Barnevernet is trying to scare me! But I will never give up. I miss him so much. The notice that I received this week along with the meeting after the visit with Caspian on Thursday took an emotional toll on me. But I will never stop fighting.”
The report sent to Nadia on the 17th was expected. As far as I can tell, the reasoning in the report is more information that shows a great lack of common sense. If Nadia was upset when other mothers were losing her child, it only means she has empathy, something that most view as a very good trait in a person. The reports says she is forgetful. Anyone who has read about the observation techniques at the Mother’s Homes would never forget them and Nadia hasn’t. Also, it is obvious that under such conditions the vast majority of people would be more forgetful than usual when exposed to months of such observation.
Then, there is this: ” The same verdict states that Nadia is a good mother when she feels safe.” What is Nadia to think of this? Here is a young mother who has had virtually no control over the fate of her child since he was born. When was she supposed to feel “safe?” I know she felt safe at the Hennum home because she told me so. THE ONLY PLACE NADIA HAS FELT SAFE WAS TAKEN AWAY FROM HER BY THE BARNEVERNET.
I was surprised, and I think Nadia was too, about the meeting with the BV head after Thursday’s visitation. There had been some mention of a meeting after Friday’s visitation but it has been hard to know when important events will occur in this case at times. I agree with Nadia that this was a very intimidating meeting before an important court case. For anyone to tell Nadia of wishes to give her only 3 visits a year with Caspian less than a week before her trial is very cruel. I will let you decide how bad it is that a Barnevernet Head did this.
I have received information from other sources besides Nadia that state she is a very good mother. I know that Nadia fears Caspian’s future away from her because she believes that no one can love him like she can. How many places has Caspian has been moved while away from Nadia and where has her son been? She has no way of knowing. Caspian has given Nadia a purpose in life that she didn’t have before him. The bond has been strong during visitations and 3 visits a year would destroy most of that bond.